Hello to all you bloggers. I am not a writer that is for sure! I have a friend who blogs here, and I have enjoyed his blogs immensly. The subject of sex has come up in several conversations I have had lately, so I thought this would be an interesting blog. Hope you all enjoy! LOL! And thanks to Stephanie on myspace for this tidbit of information.
We've all heard it for years. A woman reaches her sexual peak in her mid-30s. She continues to enjoy sex well into her 40s and, I suppose, until she eventually just gets too tired or bored to bother. It's all very ironic, considering a man reaches his sexual peak at 18. Which means the ideal coupling would look something like this:
Demi with her young hottie!
Generally speaking, men slow down with age. It's a physical thing...and it has been medically confirmed. But while physically they settle down, emotionally many men report that their sex lives are better as they get older and more confident in who they are. The problem is, nothing really happens to a woman physically to slow her down. Our parts still work as well as they always did and we reach 35 and are still ready for action. Maybe more action than the man is. And we have more confidence and are more sexually open than we were in our 20s, when our men were trying to get us to do really strange, kinky things. So...is it really that we've hit our sexual peak or is it all in our heads?
Traditionally, the female sexual peak has been attributed to a surge in hormones. But now there are conflicting reports about this phenomenon. Many therapists are now saying a person's sexual libido is individual to him or her and not dictated by some societal norm. One woman's peak is another woman's valley. And if a woman is with a man who has no idea what he's doing, I'm guessing it's gonna be more of a valley, no matter what her age.
In my very limited experience, it just seems women are more open in our 30s and 40s. There are (of course) exceptions to this, but a woman seems to come into her own as she gets older and if a woman is going to be uninhibited in bed, it's likely to happen at an older age. Sure, there are plenty of women in their 20s who say they are comfortable with everything, but how much of that is conditioning? They know men expect certain things so they pretend to really like them. What I'm saying is, by her 30s and 40s a woman actually does these things for herself. It's less of a show and more about what she wants.
I've heard of women in their 20s who have never had an orgasm and have no desire to have one. They don't get what the big deal about sex is. Oral sex is "yucky" and intercourse is just something they do to cement whatever relationship they are in. They want that diamond ring and if it takes lying flat on their back for fifteen minutes every night for a year or so to get it, that's what they'll do. They might even pretend to like it...and maybe they even do. After all, it's time spent naked with the men they love. But what they don't realize is there's more. So much more.
Maybe that woman will reach her 30s and something will happen. Maybe not. Sometimes women just never really fall into liking sex all that much. They have children, get involved with life...and it's not that they don't love their husbands. Really, they do, with all their hearts. They just don't think sex is all that important.
But for those women that hit their 30s and realize how good sex can be, all bets are off. Call it a hormonal surge, or just blame it on a self-confidence that hits as all women grow older...whatever the case, a woman can definitely improve with age. In our 20s, most of us are insecure about our bodies. We may look like this:
Traditionally, the female sexual peak has been attributed to a surge in hormones. But now there are conflicting reports about this phenomenon. Many therapists are now saying a person's sexual libido is individual to him or her and not dictated by some societal norm. One woman's peak is another woman's valley. And if a woman is with a man who has no idea what he's doing, I'm guessing it's gonna be more of a valley, no matter what her age.
In my very limited experience, it just seems women are more open in our 30s and 40s. There are (of course) exceptions to this, but a woman seems to come into her own as she gets older and if a woman is going to be uninhibited in bed, it's likely to happen at an older age. Sure, there are plenty of women in their 20s who say they are comfortable with everything, but how much of that is conditioning? They know men expect certain things so they pretend to really like them. What I'm saying is, by her 30s and 40s a woman actually does these things for herself. It's less of a show and more about what she wants.
I've heard of women in their 20s who have never had an orgasm and have no desire to have one. They don't get what the big deal about sex is. Oral sex is "yucky" and intercourse is just something they do to cement whatever relationship they are in. They want that diamond ring and if it takes lying flat on their back for fifteen minutes every night for a year or so to get it, that's what they'll do. They might even pretend to like it...and maybe they even do. After all, it's time spent naked with the men they love. But what they don't realize is there's more. So much more.
Maybe that woman will reach her 30s and something will happen. Maybe not. Sometimes women just never really fall into liking sex all that much. They have children, get involved with life...and it's not that they don't love their husbands. Really, they do, with all their hearts. They just don't think sex is all that important.
But for those women that hit their 30s and realize how good sex can be, all bets are off. Call it a hormonal surge, or just blame it on a self-confidence that hits as all women grow older...whatever the case, a woman can definitely improve with age. In our 20s, most of us are insecure about our bodies. We may look like this:
I know I never looked like this Alba lol!
But all we see is the cellulite on the backs of our thighs or the little flap of skin that hangs down under our arms. Imperfections. And no amount of time in the gym will replace that. When we're naked, we're worried what you're thinking. Are you seeing those imperfections? Anything we do in bed makes us insecure. We just aren't comfortable doing things...but sometimes, in a loving relationship, we can become that way. It's just that, in time, we become more secure in who we are. We may not have the body we had in our 20s but we don't mind. We love our curves and we realize our men love them as well. We come to the knowledge that when we see ourselves as sexy, they see us as even sexier. Nothing turns a man on more than being with a woman who is confident in herself.
Inhibitions go down, things heat up. And THAT is why women reach their sexual peak in their 30s. I say that peak continues as long as women want it to. Certainly as long as men are willing to indulge it.
What do you think? Where sex is concerned, do women get better with age? What about men?
Inhibitions go down, things heat up. And THAT is why women reach their sexual peak in their 30s. I say that peak continues as long as women want it to. Certainly as long as men are willing to indulge it.
What do you think? Where sex is concerned, do women get better with age? What about men?
